Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence
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- Author：Lindsay C. Gibson
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Summary
From the author of the self-help hit， Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents， this essential guide offers daily， practical ways to help you heal the invisible wounds caused by immature parents， nurture self-awareness， trust your emotions， improve relationships， and stop putting others’ needs ahead of your own。
If you grew up with an emotionally immature， unavailable， or selfish parent， you probably still struggle with anger， sadness， resentment， or shame。 As a child， your emotional needs were not met， your feelings were dismissed， and you likely took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior。 Somewhere along the way， you lost your sense of self。 And without this strong sense of self， you may feel like your own well-being isn’t valuable。
In this compassionate guide—written just for you， not them—you’ll find tips and tools to help you set boundaries with others， honor and validate your emotions， and thrive in the face of life’s challenges。 You’ll discover how to protect yourself from hurtful behavior， stop making excuses for others’ limitations， forge healthier relationships， and feel more confident in your life。 Most importantly， you’ll learn how to stop putting others’ needs before your own， and manage daily stressors with competence， clarity， and optimism。
Self-care means honoring and respecting the self。 But when you grow up with emotionally immature parents， you are taught that setting limits is selfish and uncaring。 You are taught to seek approval instead of authenticity in relationships。 And you are taught that empathy and emotional awareness are liabilities， rather than assets。 But there’s another way to go through life—one in which you can take care of yourself， first and foremost。
Let this book guide you toward a new way of being。
If you grew up with an emotionally immature， unavailable， or selfish parent， you probably still struggle with anger， sadness， resentment， or shame。 As a child， your emotional needs were not met， your feelings were dismissed， and you likely took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior。 Somewhere along the way， you lost your sense of self。 And without this strong sense of self， you may feel like your own well-being isn’t valuable。
In this compassionate guide—written just for you， not them—you’ll find tips and tools to help you set boundaries with others， honor and validate your emotions， and thrive in the face of life’s challenges。 You’ll discover how to protect yourself from hurtful behavior， stop making excuses for others’ limitations， forge healthier relationships， and feel more confident in your life。 Most importantly， you’ll learn how to stop putting others’ needs before your own， and manage daily stressors with competence， clarity， and optimism。
Self-care means honoring and respecting the self。 But when you grow up with emotionally immature parents， you are taught that setting limits is selfish and uncaring。 You are taught to seek approval instead of authenticity in relationships。 And you are taught that empathy and emotional awareness are liabilities， rather than assets。 But there’s another way to go through life—one in which you can take care of yourself， first and foremost。
Let this book guide you toward a new way of being。
Reviews
Jen
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I LIVE FORWARD。Tyrannical talkers。Wolves who try to take over and suck the life out of you。Emotionally immature parents who can’t use empathy because they need to be first。 How their limitations closed your narrow view of the world。 Wow did I get a lot out of this book！
Audrey ✧･ﾟ: *✧
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5* - it was amazingThank you Lindsay <3
Barb
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I was a huge fan of Lindsay Gibson’s first book， Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents。 When I saw that she had written a new book on the same topic， I was eager to read it but because her first book had been so in-depth I was skeptical about whether it would cover any new ground。It turns out I needn’t have worried because as I found out after finishing Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions， Nurture Your Self， and Live with Confidence， Dr。 Gib I was a huge fan of Lindsay Gibson’s first book， Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents。 When I saw that she had written a new book on the same topic， I was eager to read it but because her first book had been so in-depth I was skeptical about whether it would cover any new ground。It turns out I needn’t have worried because as I found out after finishing Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions， Nurture Your Self， and Live with Confidence， Dr。 Gibson has a wealth of new information to share。 In her first book， the author focused on helping readers understand the characteristics and parenting styles of emotionally immature parents and their effect on the now-adult children they raised。Her new book is a natural followup in that it focuses on adult survivors （like me） who were raised by emotionally immature parents and offers practical and insightful guidance on a wide range of issues such as dealing with difficult people， building better relationships with ourselves， how to cope with stress and set boundaries， and， most importantly - at least for me - how to self-nurture。The author has an excellent writing style that is both down-to-earth and empathetic。 As someone who myself often thinks and speaks in metaphors， I was pleased at Dr。 Gibson’s use of metaphor。 For example， she equates the damaging parenting style of emotionally immature parents to， among other things， programming their children’s lives with malware。 She also provides reassurance that “DNA is not a life sentence” and assures us that just because one was raised in a toxic home does not mean that one is doomed to never have a normal and happy life。I cannot recommend this book highly enough to anyone who grew up in a dysfunctional home and was forced to not only parent themselves but also forced into spending their childhood parenting the people who were supposed to be parenting them。 。。。more
Megan Vick
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Loved this book！ Once you have an understanding of the EI behaviors in adults， this book makes a great companion for ensuring you take care of yourself。 Whether you have EI parents， coworkers， neighbors， or friends/family， this book will help you:- nurture yourself- set， enforce， and communicate boundaries- disconnect from what doesn't serve youYou don't have to read this book in order。 There are helpful groupings around parenting， relationships， etc。， so you are easily able to refresh yourself Loved this book！ Once you have an understanding of the EI behaviors in adults， this book makes a great companion for ensuring you take care of yourself。 Whether you have EI parents， coworkers， neighbors， or friends/family， this book will help you:- nurture yourself- set， enforce， and communicate boundaries- disconnect from what doesn't serve youYou don't have to read this book in order。 There are helpful groupings around parenting， relationships， etc。， so you are easily able to refresh yourself in the moment。 。。。more
Courtney
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At the beginning of the pandemic I stumbled upon Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents through my libraries digital collection。 Generally， I avoid self-help books。 I often find them condescending or impractical。 However， the wait list for it was ridiculously long and I was intrigued。 Over a year later I finally received it。 I finished it in a day。 There was a lot of useful information and tools for self-reflection about identifying what type of Emotionally Immature parent you had and me At the beginning of the pandemic I stumbled upon Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents through my libraries digital collection。 Generally， I avoid self-help books。 I often find them condescending or impractical。 However， the wait list for it was ridiculously long and I was intrigued。 Over a year later I finally received it。 I finished it in a day。 There was a lot of useful information and tools for self-reflection about identifying what type of Emotionally Immature parent you had and means to identify your coping mechanisms。 My only complaint was that there wasn't any real focus on addressing how to recognize if you've adopted emotionally immature behaviours yourself and how to work on maturing in these area's。 Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents addresses that。 "To be emotionally healthy you have to be as available to yourself as you would with someone you love。"There are three parts: Protecting & Caring for Yourself， Dealing with People， and Coping with Challenges。 Each of those sections are broken down further to address different situations or issues into bite-sized chapter's so it isn't overwhelming。 The author discusses how internalized behaviours you've picked up from your emotionally immature parents impact your romantic relationship's but also relationships with your children or co-workers。 There's a good balance between self-reflection and focusing on interaction's with others。I find the advice given is gently delivered and practical。 Although， it's easily used to address overcoming a person's past， it can also be applied to your current situation and as a means to shape the future you would like see。If you don't create and manage your own story， someone else may write it for you。"I recommend this book to anyone whose negative childhood has lingered with them into adulthood or are concerned about repeating their parent's emotionally immature mistakes。 The advice is also applicable to anyone that may just want to break themselves of self-defeating habits。 Thank you Netgalley and the publisher for giving me a advance readers copy in exchange for a honest review。 All quotes come from an uncorrected arc and may change。 。。。more
Rebecca
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Really excellent content。 It doesn’t have to be read in order; each chapter is a bite-sized， yet deeply focused on some aspect or other。 I found it to be just the right balance。 Not overwhelming but certainly not shallow or surface-level content either。 As a regular attender of Adult Child of Alcoholics and/or Dysfunctional Families， I found this book to be an absolutely lovely companion on the road to nurture my inner child and develop my own loving inner parent。There is also a practical sectio Really excellent content。 It doesn’t have to be read in order; each chapter is a bite-sized， yet deeply focused on some aspect or other。 I found it to be just the right balance。 Not overwhelming but certainly not shallow or surface-level content either。 As a regular attender of Adult Child of Alcoholics and/or Dysfunctional Families， I found this book to be an absolutely lovely companion on the road to nurture my inner child and develop my own loving inner parent。There is also a practical section on how to parent your own kids in an emotionally connected， mature way that I found very helpful。 。。。more
The Planning Mama
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Empowering and validating， this book is nourishment for the soul。It's broken into three sections; Protecting and caring for yourself， Dealing with people and Coping with challenges。 Each section covers a myriad of circumstances that life may present with and either practical solutions or advice for dealing with these challenges。Great at instilling confidence， this book gives people the power and the resources for self-care and dismisses many false beliefs that may have been built up by Emotional Empowering and validating， this book is nourishment for the soul。It's broken into three sections; Protecting and caring for yourself， Dealing with people and Coping with challenges。 Each section covers a myriad of circumstances that life may present with and either practical solutions or advice for dealing with these challenges。Great at instilling confidence， this book gives people the power and the resources for self-care and dismisses many false beliefs that may have been built up by Emotionally Immature people， not just limited to parents。 It also addresses the concerns that many adult children of EI people have of treating their own children in a similar fashion。 Gibson's advice is reassuring and empowering。 It offers validation， reassurance and practical ways to reframe situations and also some scripts to use with difficult people。 Often unseen， this shines the spotlight on adult children who need the confidence and the permission to practice self-care and allows them to shine。Many thanks to Netgally for an early copy in return for an honest review 。。。more
MookNana
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